Back in the day when I was working in the hardware store, I had a boss who had an excellent approach to dealing with really difficult customers. That approach was as follows, and I quote, “They can be unpleasant. Hell, they can be a total asshole… but at the end of the day, if we get their money, we won.” And he was right.
I spent the better part of 10 years in that hardware store doing exactly that… putting up with people’s shit a lot of the time. One time it was even pushed to the extreme of a customer throwing merchandise at me and asking what time I got off work cause he wanted to meet in the parking lot! But was it even really just a matter of gritting and putting up with their shit? No. In fact, when you really examine the situation, I would say it is a careful negotiation executed with someone who has chosen to position themselves as the enemy. That boss I mentioned earlier had an unmatched ability to strategically and successfully execute this negotiation and ultimately reach the objective of monetary extraction from the enemy’s pocketbook. At the end of the day, we had every right to tell a bunch of these people to “go to hell” because we didn’t need them to keep the store open. However by negotiating, we were able to improve our situation, regardless of whether they really improved their situation or not.
So if that is the right way to deal with such situations on a small scale, why is not the way to do so with matters as important as national security? It doesn’t seem to make a hell of a lot of sense to me that we “refuse to negotiate with terrorist nations” like Iran, Syria, North Korea, and others. If you refuse to negotiate, exactly how do you expect to ever, metaphorically speaking, “get their money“. Instead, we don’t even tell them just to leave the store (ignore them), but step up and slap them in the face with a name like “axis of evil”. What kind of a deeply flawed theory are we living under?
What if I had, instead of apologizing and negotiating DESPITE being dead right, told that guy “F*** you, I’m off at 6, see you in the parking lot!!” I’m guessing we wouldn’t have gotten his money (which we did, $26.27), and might have just ended up being dead right with a big black eye.















